Beloved friends of the 4-D Network,
I want to share my thoughts about sensual touch and wellbeing as you get closer to death.
These are experiences from my time with Gina Ogden three years ago.
When Gina asked me if I could be her Death Doula, I accepted.
Every day until she died I cared for her body with lotion and massage oil. Often after she had a bath.
“-I am in a bliss!” is how Gina described how it felt when I gave her meditative foot massage.
When I asked her about sexual wellbeing and the four directions, Gina said that if she was to value the sensation in her Mind, Body, Heart, and Spirit, the foot massage gave her a sense of peace and pleasure. It was how she remembered feelings of pleasure and moments of sensual meetings earlier in life. To me, it was truly rewarding to see how her body got more and more relaxed and how her face looked so peaceful when I cared for her body.
Gina would also travel in her spirit when I drummed for her, which was another thing she often asked me to do. She would travel to places of well-being, places that were filled with pleasure.
Even at the end of life, having peaceful moments of pleasure. We only need to be open to alternatives to our earlier experiences. Gina knew how to enjoy the present and how to let a bath, gentle massage or drumming take her to places of wellbeing and sensual pleasure
She also asked me to share the story of her journey with others, and especially with her 4-D Wheel Team.
In loving memory of Gina,
Tina Nevin
Sexologist, Midwife, 4-D Wheel practitioner, Supervisor, Doula.
